I don’t know when it truly happened, but somewhere between the time I was born and right now, I came to dislike my birthday. I fully understand you, a lot of INFJs simply don’t like their birthday for numerous reasons, but there also those who do. I will word my ‘happy birthday’ message very carefully. . Age 22: I invited all my friends over to watch a movie. I had a great day by myself earlier since it had rained and it was so pretty outside that I went to exercise at the park, It was enough for me.

For me personally, I haven’t had very many close friends, and often they are spread across the country or even the world (I’ve been around a bit). Lol, I hear you Melissa, I can relate with the situation you had as a kid. A group of friends have gathered and are cheersing with flutes of warming sweet prosecco, singing in lacklustre harmony. , So, I’ve tried a different tactic for my birthday over the last few years that’s left me happy as a clam: I find ways to celebrate that give me opportunities to serve others with skills I love showing off.

Always exhausting but they’re happy. I needed this article. Just being together…I’d rather skip the singing though!

No guilt, just happiness, and relaxation. And I do not begrudge other people that pleasure: in fact, I love my friends’ and family members’ birthdays.

That is just the way I like it!

I had the flu on my bday and I was just in bed all day feeling so terrible and depressed.

I’m glad you can relate Katie! I’ve had only 1 birthday party ever in my life at age 4. And I played bartender all night. Just thinking about seeing them so happy and showing how much they mean to me is really important. In their way. After 2001, I get pushed to the side for memorials and tributes… if people do remember it’s because of that of what happened in 2001 not because of me. I am happy to know that I am not alone ? I ordered and paid for the pizza, but didn’t tell anyone it was my birthday. I really hate my birthday.. and to be honest, I clearly didn’t fully understand why? It always seemed disingenuous.

I hate my birthday. What a creepy coincidence – my birthday is next month. You came into existence with a mission to heal and share that much needed goodness. Two years ago, I had a party that was graciously hosted by a friend with a large house.

I try to remember all that.

And you are right on the birthday parties; the few I had as an adult made me cringe.
I’m going to work, then picking up antibiotics for my strep. For the past few years I have actually planned my own celebration with a small group of girlfriends at a lovely restaurant and this past birthday in March went big! Remember to be more gentle to yourself, because even if you don’t see it, you are making daily progress that is worth celebrating. I am humbled and honored to respond Brenda.

The main reason why the majority of INFJs dislike their own birthday is because we believe that we don’t deserve to be celebrated. My friend came in my room and after many attempts of trying to get me out of bed she did and we went to her room and all my friends were in there singing happy birthday to me. I hate my fucking birthday.

Got to love those synchronicities. It explains a lot. I told my husband in route, my mother is not planning a party is she? Still thinking of birthday ideas.(Nov.

It seems like they’re only doing it b/c it’s expected; it’s not sincere. . Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this! This is really accurate!

I’m involved with this sweet and special girl now, who “charmed” me into going out yesterday and I’m forever grateful to her cos I had a swell time out with her instead customarily staying indoor and secretly praying/wishing to go iut and have on such days. I did not care for insincere greetings from people who would not have known it was my birthday had facebook not informed them. I can understand why you don’t like birthday parties, Cindy.

I would have rather be there then at home. Birthdays happen to be even harder for me since I’m adopted and so they hold an additional layer of dread and meaning and grief. This content is imported from Instagram. Now this year many of us will be in isolation. , Even as a young child I hated birthdays.

I have always hated my birthday but always stress every year on planning something even though I know I’d rather do nothing! As long as you do what you want to do, and celebrate in a way that feels good to you, I think birthdays are much better. If you’re self isolating and solo cooking don’t forget to light those candles and #makeamealofit, A post shared by Laura Jackson (@iamlaurajackson) on Mar 21, 2020 at 1:15pm PDT. It always seemed too automatic. , Wow Marko, I can really relate to this! I’m glad the article resonated with you, and I deeply thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Kellee. I stupidly dumped my INFJ, and was sorry the moment I did. There's a term for it: 'Birthday Blues'.

As others have said, it’s not like a person has actually done anything special to deserve an honor. I can’t really not invite one of the two, because that would be rude. Now fast foward a decade or two, I’ve come to realize that I just do not like my birthday. Even for our own birthday. That internal INFJ conflict for our birthday is all too real. Thank you for sharing this article! But my sister insists on celebrating it, so I go along.

Spending time doing what you love, with the people you cherish is definitely a winning birthday combination.

Does this sound too unreasonable?

I didn’t like people singing as a kid but having a few friends over for cake was nice. Good to hear that shares from fellow INFJs help too. What a relief!!! Long story short, less detailed, I lost my best friend the very next morning, mainly because I didn’t wanna lash out, so I said to leave me alone. , A triathlon for your 60th, I love that!!! I’m born January 1st and it’s a blessing. If it’s my day, and I get to choose, I want to stay inside my apartment all day and not put on a bra and just like, order in pizza. If I say I’m not going it will hurt their feelings but I just cannot face the idea of it.

For past year , I have become more positive towards my birthday and now it has become a special day for celebrating myself, being grateful and being alive. Best part was the oldies talking about when I was young and the memory my sister made with all sorts of old pictures. Today is my birthday and it has been the most depressing and darkest day.

I never really know what to do lol, but whatever I will suck it up. I’m really sorry this happened, Zebeth… Hope the birthday message you’ll write will make a positive difference. Bad combo hahaha take care and thanks again.

I’m a triplet and one of my twins is a girl who recently tested as an infj-a while I’m an infj-t. We hate attention but my twin brother loves it. Thanks for the posting, Marko. Hit the nail on the head with one! I am going to attend my best-friend’s mom’s funeral the day after this birthday, my 49th-I had known her for 32 years. I shall do that, the only thing is that some of my friends will know it’s my birthday.

Hate or love yourself?

Hoping it’s a relaxing day for you. Maybe because of bad memories, idk.

I hear you Samantha… But I hope you had a peaceful day all together. In fact, with age really does come wisdom. You are most welcome, Agate! You are most welcome, glad the article resonated with you, and thank you for sharing your thoughts. This Wednesday, May 22 I’ll be a 31-year-old INFJ. |, A purple shampoo hack that will truly keep your blonde hair from going brassy, 10 reasons why you're dreaming about your ex, 7 ways to clean gunky earrings to make your bling sparkle like new, 10 tricks to make your hair look super shiny and healthy, Fire, water, earth, or air—here's what your zodiac element reveals about you, 15 ways your relationship changes after the honeymoon stage ends, 15 movies about love that are actually super depressing. Especially celebrating it. Entertaining and table-scaping for one is just as fun!


It’s not the ageing bit that worries me. Just don’t forget, your birthday is a special day and you don’t matter less because someone doesn’t see it. I’m glad your real friends now understand. My two favorite birthdays: And thank you for sharing your experience and how you feel about your birthday. I’m so upset that he has allowed my sisters to organise this. Celebrate the day when this Earth became richer.

The joy of Houseparty is that it offers games – a night of Heads Up for your birthday? He was ridiculously mean to us, for no particular reason, except maybe because he could be. So glad beyond words that I found this forum.

I’m always thinking about what I’ve done in my life up until that point and judging myself on what I think I ought to have achieved. We have an entire year to do that.” I’m glad you liked the article, that it resonated with you, and that you now enjoy your birthday to the fullest. It’s so strange that popped up on my Pinterest feed. Christine Pineapple. I guess everyone is invited to that…? I want you to know that you’re not a failure, Willa. I actually hosted my own birthday and had 17 friends over and catered the whole thing. My last birthday we had 12 or so people, and about half way into it I crashed. Hey Marko, this is SO accurate.


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